Young and Naked

Riding home the other day listening to the radio I hear a story about a man and his daughter. It seems that some story came out about how 1 in 4 kids or something like that has naked or semi-nude photos on the internet or phone that they have sent to someone. So this man wants to check his daughters phone. And oh boy what did he find (after having to knock down her door to get to the phone). There was a picture of her naked, one of her kissing another girl, and one of her giving oral to a young man that was not her boyfriend. I feel for this man. He said his whole life changed.

So is this what our kids are doing? They are growing up into adults so fast. I personally think that it is a result of our more and more liberal culture. I used to think nothing of these images on television and in movies, but the older I get and closer to maybe having my own children the more my outlook changes. Why else are children doing these things? Parents can't be teaching this behavior. If I was in high school with all this technology I would have several pictures of girls on my phone. Then again, my mother probably wouldn't let me have a phone with a camera and text messaging and all that.

They then asked the question to men: would you feel differently if it was your son? Wow. Tough one. Honestly I would. Just the way I see the world and many people do. If a woman wants to hoe like a man, then cool. She just isn't for me nor does she need to be my child. I would be upset with my son but not as hurt as I would be if it was my daughter. God forbid that I have to bring up a daughter in this society. It is all about instant gratification and sexual freedom.

Would you feel differently if your child has these things on their phone or email whether they were a boy or a girl?

To all parents, I say good luck. Watch your kids and what they are exposed to.

Women, why tights?

I play volleyball once a week and yesterday we played a team that had three girls in these short and skin tight pants. Short as in they stopped about an inch tops from the cup of butt cheek. Now, I certainly don't mind women walking around showing it all, I just don't understand why. I mean, do you want everyone to see your camel toe? I wear tights at times myself, but under shorts. I wear mine to help my old muscles not to get pulled/strained with my lack of stretching. I might sport something like that around the house for a lady, but that is at the house. A private thing. I go to the gym and there are women walking around with what look like sports bras and biker shorts or some variation of that sort. Great motivation and entertainment for myself while I work out so thank you to all those ladies. Show it off!!

So I just want to know why women wear this type of clothing when working out or playing sports. I can understand competitive athletes rocking stuff like that for performance purposes. But other times, what is the reason? To get attention? is it more comfortable? Does it keep things in place better? And then for whatever the reason may be, do women then mind when men look? Cause to me if you come out looking a certain way, you want someone to look and I more than likely will be looking. Apparently, tights are in style now for women. Gotta love that. Went out in Atlanta a few months ago and stuff was all out there to be seen. And I'm not knocking women for wearing this stuff. Do what you do! Unless you my lady, it is all good. My woman will keep the business at home for my eyes only.

Anyone who can give me some insight on this, it would be greatly appreciated.

Spay and Neuter poor people? Hmmmmm.....

Watched the news the other night and they were talking about this factory that shut down in Chicago and wasn't going to pay its workers what they were owed. My heart goes out to these people and I hope they land on their feet and get what they are owed. After the story they brought on one of the workers from the factory. The guy looked like he may have been 50 or so. I'm not sure how much factory workers make or how responsible this man is with his money, but he said he had 6 kids and 15 grandchildren. Damn! This got me to thinking how was he going to take care of his. Then I was like why would you have that many kids unless you working on a farm or something.

This led me to thinking about what if we took a hint from China and limited the number of kids people can have. Maybe we could put financial and educational criteria limits in relation to how many children you can have. Now I don't mean that any one can't have kids. I think everyone who wants to have a child is more than welcome to because kids are a blessing (and a terror at times). And stupid people can have kids too. But hey, if you are having trouble taking care of your three kids and are on welfare or some form of government assistance maybe you shouldn't have anymore. Some of us should stop at one. If you don't have the means and time to take care of the kids then why are you having more? Especially if they then become a burden on society. So until you are self sufficient to take care of what you have, you should be spayed or neutered. Let's start fighting poverty that way. Stable being that you can provide a home, clothes and food for your child on your own! Some people have to be protected from themselves.

I know this is a crazy thought and I don't "really" feel this way although I wouldn't be out protesting the idea, but it kind of urks me when I see someone down on their luck walking around pregnant or with 3 and 4 kids. Love is not enough to raise a child. It is not America's job to take care of every child someone brings into this country. And heck if you have been fixed and later get on your feet and want more kids, ADOPT! Too many unfortunate kids out their stuck in that system now anyways.

ROAD RAGE

I just finished another trip back to the crib and sure enough that anger inside welled on me while in the road. Someone needs to teach drivers proper etiquette for the highway. I wish cops were never out there because they cause more problems than they help. My trip was an extra two hours this past weekend. Now if it was for a wreck or something along those lines I can understand that. Graphic Language Warning!!!! I was stuck because these nosey motherfuckers want to look at a damn wreck on the other side of the road! 2 hours for some rubber-necking? What the fuck? I could have rammed my car through someone’s trunk and into their back seat. Go home and watch the news or faces of death if you need to see wreck that bad. Otherwise, keep it moving.

Couple of quick tips to you non drivers to not piss me off:

-Get out of the left lane if traffic is flying by you.

-When you are in the fast lane and someone is going faster, move (unless they are being unreasonable, ex: you are doing 85 and they are at 97. let they ass swerve around you but don’t be over there doing 70 holding people up)

-If you over 70? Find some streets to drive on.

-On two lane highways, never drive the same speed and beside the car in the lane beside you

One drop and you Black

Just some quick thoughts I had today. In this country if you are part black, you are black. You aren’t white, Korean, Chinese, etc… You are black. Prime example: Obama. A multiracial man who in fact was raised by whites yet he is considered black. Hell, his dad really isn’t black. He is African. But like the title says, one drop of some dark and you become black.

Why is this? And why do multiracial people seem to go along with it? I mean how can you just dismiss one half of you if in fact this is done? And why do blacks just accept it? I guess there is nothing to accept but it is odd to me how you are only white if you are pure, but black is any old mixture of things. Like the throwaways. Just give blacks everyone. Are we some kind of disease or something? Oh I know, our genes are so strong that our offspring are more like us than whatever nationality has been mixed with us. And hell if they have a drop and are doing well we are so desperate for good role models that we just have to try and embrace them. Don’t be mad if Tiger wants to claim all that makes him who he is rather than just say he is black.

Another thing. I have befriended some Africans and Jamaicans who are pretty much considered black. They really aren’t the same at all culturally. The Africans seem to congregate together in groups. So did the Jamaicans. If I go to Africa or Jamaica do you think they will call me African or Jamaican? I am an American. Want to be more specific, call me a Black American. This country was built on my ancestors backs so give me full citizenship. I don’t need no damn hyphens (African-American). I just get sick of this African American term. Ain't shit about me African! (Yeah, that was real ignant!) No more at least than Susan or Tom. Whites in South Africa got more African culture than I do. But we steady try to strive and rekindle those ties. Good for ya’ll, I’m straight.

A Joy I Missed

Not too long ago we elected a new president of the United States. This man is black as am I, yet I don’t feel the same joy and excitement that I hear from others. Am I just against blacks? A hater? Too logical at times for my own good? Whatever the reason, I don’t feel some barrier or milestone that is so great has been reached. I get the impression from other blacks that I speak with that this was like the best thing since sliced bread.

On the one hand I can understand feelings coming from the older blacks, but from my age group and younger it is not so obvious to me. Do we feel that oppressed? Has the world held us back from opportunities because of our skin color? A lot of times I think our perception becomes our reality. I have a chip on my shoulder as many blacks do. But in truth, I’ve gotten opportunities in my life because I was black. Before President Obama, we have had two secretaries of states that were black yet got no love from the black community. They weren’t acceptable blacks. I’ve heard blacks on TV refer to Obama as a real black man who is cool and all this other stuff. I guess Mrs. Rice and Mr. Powell don’t meet black standards.

So now we have a black president? Is the world different now? First thing I start getting from people is stuff like tell the whites to report to the cotton field or how the whites at work didn’t speak the next day and they mad etc.. And surely all of this was coming from whites in the reverse as well. I have coworkers who do not like Obama at all, but I honestly feel it is because of his policies and record more than anything else. From what I see the same separatist attitudes remain, if in fact they have not also gotten stronger. I realize I’m not white and they may say many things when I’m not around in the same manner I hear things from blacks when whites are not around. I also realize that the whites I’m around mainly are educated people and I tend to think the ignorant racial attitudes don’t persist in more intelligent people. So I can only assume that whites do the same but I have no real first hand proof.

Now will we be able to be objective with a black president? Or will the black community cry foul at criticism towards him? Or will the media be scared to go at him for fear of being called a racist? During the campaigning I heard several people tell me Obama was being treating unfairly because he was a black man? How so? He seemed to be the media darling on every news outlet other than FOX. A few jumped on Palin because her daughter was pregnant and how if she was a black woman the story would be totally different. Why does it even have to be about black or white?

I was asked why I wasn’t excited about Obama and him being a “black” president. My response was first that I am really not that big a fan of his. Just seems like another politician to me especially the way he answers questions. Second and foremost, I will be excited when something like this is not a story. When MLK’s dream is truly a reality.

Pro Life / Pro Choice

Abortion seems to be one of the biggest issues out there every time an election rolls around. Seems like Roe v Wade settled all that but I guess not. I have come to find out that many would just like the states to have the choice on deciding whether to allow abortion rather than the federal government. Personally, I don't feel strongly towards either side of the issue. In on sense, having the choice of what to do with your own body seems to be a part of being "free" which this country is supposed to be based upon. However, if you consider abortion murder then that is obviously wrong. I'm not sure when a life is considered a life. It would be interesting to know what the Bible says on this. I guess if I was a better christian I'd know the answer to that question.

For most of my life I was all about pro choice but that was more from a selfish view point. Always thought that if I got someone pregnant that I would want her to not keep the baby. I should have been thinking about that possibility before laying with someone and whether or not I wanted to share a child and relationship with them the rest of my life. With time I have come to change, mainly because I am more mature and in a better position to handle a situation like that. I now feel that a child is a blessing and not a burden. Yet I do not think it is my place to tell someone else what they can do with their body when abortion is legal right now. I also don't like the idea of children coming into this world in certain less than ideal situations (not that any situation is perfect). I do feel strongly that abortion should not be used as a form of birth control. I would say you get no more than two, but that is just some number I pulled out the air. At some point you have to take responsibility for your actions. But for someone who has been raped or molested how do you tell them to go through with that pregnancy? After hearing all the hoopla about Sarah Palin recently and her child who had down syndrome I wanted to learn more about it. Mainly because I thought it was admirable for her to go to term knowing her child would be sick, yet people were telling me it was no big deal and common for women to do this. Turns out that approximately 90% of cases similar to hers end in abortion. Wow! So I did gain more respect for her regardless of whether or not she was in a financial situation to handle that you still have something in your character to go through with that. I'm not sure if I would do the same and obviously a lot of other people would not. As I thought on this it was like where could this abortion thing go as knowledge of detecting diseases early on in pregnance increases? Are we creating a super race? Kind of like Hitler or the Spartans where only the strong survive but without them even making it out of the womb. Something about that just doesn't seem right. You may think I'm way out there, but it is a slippery slope from down syndrome to abortions because a child will be dyslexic or left handed or however frivelous the reason could be. May sound crazy but think about some of the things people do in this world and have done.

My biggest problem with the Pro Life movement is the passion with which they speak on the issue. To me if you are pro life and are passionate about it, then you should be pro a lot of things. If you want it government mandated then there should be other legislation associated with the change. If abortion was not allowed in this day and age what kind of influx would that have on the country? Who is going to shoulder this burden? Many of these kids will be unwanted. So they could be given up for adoption or unloved and become a burden on society through crime. Not that they would all become unproductive citizens, but it does make your path more difficult. Which is fine if all these pro life people are out there to help these kids. Go adopt a child each so he has love and guidance. Provide quality day care services that are affordable so the parents can work and their kids won't get behind others with more money. Volunteer at these places and give your time with the same passion that you speak against abortion. Improve sex education. But a lot of pro life people are against sex ed and that makes a lot of sense. Every parent is not responsible in teaching their kids how to protect themselves so make it manditory if you want abortion prohibited. When a million more people hit the system you have to have a plan. Push that plan as hard as your other beliefs and maybe it will sound more reasonable to those on the fence or the other side.

So in the end I am a pro choice person. I'd rather mothers choose life but I don't believe it is my place to tell them how to live their life. I would like for their to be a system in place to show them they will have help and can live a full life if not a fuller life after having the child.